Steering Clear of Financial Landmines

By Andrew K. Hoffman, FCA, CFP®, CDFA™ Understanding the financial and tax implications of your options – and avoiding financial landmines – is critical in creating a settlement that will last long-term. When negotiating your financial settlement, you need to know and understand the facts and your options before finalizing your settlement. In my divorce practice, I have found some crucial items are often overlooked; this article outlines some of those items for your consideration. Make sure to work with your lawyer and a divorce financial professional to cover the bases. Take Taxes into Account Failing to understand the tax […]

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The Value of Neutral Financial Professionals in Divorce

written by Katherine Miller “It’s never just about the money.”  That is a common phrase amongst professionals who work with people in conflict.  Money is certainly a critical piece of many of not most negotiations of any kind and certainly this is true in divorces.  Of course, there are situations where it’s obvious to anyone and everyone that more than just dollars and cents are involved.  A surprising number of people come into the negotiation of their own divorces thinking and saying that it’s “just a business deal” by the time they make the decision to divorce. Marriage is a […]

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Holiday tips for divorced parents

by Dan Couvrette Co-parenting after divorce is always stressful and awkward, and rarely more so than during the Thanksgiving, Hanukkah, and Christmas holidays. That’s when tension or conflict between you and your ex-spouse threatens to undo your children’s expectations of fun and a loving environment. Divorce Magazine and DivorceMagazine.com, which have provided first-rate divorce information and resources for more than 13 years, understand this — and have suggestions on how to make things easier. “No divorcing person needs to be told how important their children are,” says Dan Couvrette, the publisher and CEO of Divorce Magazine and DivorceMagazine.com. “But every […]

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Anger Management

Now that it’s over, it’s okay to feel angry by Pamela Weintraub and Terry Hillman When do you get a chance to face your anger and express it, and who is it appropriate to express it to? “A tremendous amount of anger builds as a marriage dissolves,” Littman says, “yet it’s not wise to express that anger in front of your children or to your spouse. In fact, being in touch with all the anger might even be dangerous for you. Nonetheless, this high level of anger is inside you and often gets turned inward in the form of self-blame.” […]

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The Art of Negotiation In Divorce

How to reach an agreement that’s both acceptable and affordable. by Marjorie L. Engel and Diana D. Gould There’s a common pattern to all negotiations: a cycle of initial contact, planning (research, goals, strategies, and tactics), and one or more negotiating sessions that lead to a signed agreement, complete with provisions to ensure its implementation. There are two basic components to any divorce negotiation: what is affordable and what is personally acceptable. The objective is to find a reasonable and legally acceptable balance between them. Your first experience in negotiating starts with your own lawyer. The two of you must […]

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Tips for fathers in custody disputes


by April Jones Divorces are sad and hard on for everybody in the family, including the dog. This is especially true in historically “traditional” households where mom primarily stays home with the kids and cares for the house and the dog and picks the curtains and sets the play dates and dentist appointments and makes the lunches, and volunteers at the school… while dad works long hours to pay for the house, the dog, the curtains, the braces, the groceries, the play dates, the private school…. In this family model, the Dad relies on the Mom to update him on […]

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Parenting and Step-families Articles

Techniques for Effective Discipline 
by Jayne A. Major, Ph.D. 1. Are there communication techniques that will prevent power struggles? Communication Skills – In a discipline situation, DO NOT use commands or questions. a. Commands: Do the thinking for the child. Sit down. Be quiet. Commands don’t invite a conversation so that win/win problem solving can occur. It makes it seem like the adult is the only one that knows the answers. b. Questions: Most people use questions so automatically that it is like breathing. Questions have the effect of handing over too much power to the child. Children can easily […]

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Meet the Children

How to introduce your children to your new “special friend.” 
By John Gray, Ph.D. You now realize that it’s time to introduce your children to the person who has been sharing your life these past few months. In the past, every time you’ve thought about doing this, a hard knot has formed in your stomach — the result of anxiety mixed with trepidation. You’re thinking: “How will my kids react to the fact that I’m in a new relationship? If they resent it, will they take out their anger on my lover? Will my lover be able to stick it […]

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Property Division in a Grey Divorce

By Marlo Van Oorschot The division of property is a major issue in grey divorce, and for most couples over the age of 50 their house is the largest asset they own. Traditionally, for the majority of homeowners, the value of their home is two-thirds of their total assets. And the latest figures from the Census Bureau show that 76% of people age 50 to59 and 80% of those aged 60 to 69 are homeowners-with well over 80% of all homeowners being married couples. Such statistics show that, even in today’s economic climate, the majority of couples in grey divorce […]

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High Conflict Divorce

Court Programs to Treat and Prevent High-Conflict Divorce Courts don’t typically have one, standard approach to dealing with high-conflict divorces. Instead, family courts throughout the United States have instituted counseling and therapeutic programs, parent education classes, and mediation programs to help reduce the conflict in ongoing postdivorce disputes. The different kinds of interventions that have developed in this country have arisen out of the needs of courts, judges, and attorneys as well as the experience and clinical expertise of therapists and counselors. Both mediation and parent education programs seem to predominate in court systems. Divorce mediation has been viewed since […]

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