Holiday tips for divorced parents

by Dan Couvrette Co-parenting after divorce is always stressful and awkward, and rarely more so than during the Thanksgiving, Hanukkah, and Christmas holidays. That’s when tension or conflict between you and your ex-spouse threatens to undo your children’s expectations of fun and a loving environment. Divorce Magazine and DivorceMagazine.com, which have provided first-rate divorce information and resources for more than 13 years, understand this — and have suggestions on how to make things easier. “No divorcing person needs to be told how important their children are,” says Dan Couvrette, the publisher and CEO of Divorce Magazine and DivorceMagazine.com. “But every […]

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The Art of Negotiation In Divorce

How to reach an agreement that’s both acceptable and affordable. by Marjorie L. Engel and Diana D. Gould There’s a common pattern to all negotiations: a cycle of initial contact, planning (research, goals, strategies, and tactics), and one or more negotiating sessions that lead to a signed agreement, complete with provisions to ensure its implementation. There are two basic components to any divorce negotiation: what is affordable and what is personally acceptable. The objective is to find a reasonable and legally acceptable balance between them. Your first experience in negotiating starts with your own lawyer. The two of you must […]

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Tips for fathers in custody disputes


by April Jones Divorces are sad and hard on for everybody in the family, including the dog. This is especially true in historically “traditional” households where mom primarily stays home with the kids and cares for the house and the dog and picks the curtains and sets the play dates and dentist appointments and makes the lunches, and volunteers at the school… while dad works long hours to pay for the house, the dog, the curtains, the braces, the groceries, the play dates, the private school…. In this family model, the Dad relies on the Mom to update him on […]

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Parenting and Step-families Articles

Techniques for Effective Discipline 
by Jayne A. Major, Ph.D. 1. Are there communication techniques that will prevent power struggles? Communication Skills – In a discipline situation, DO NOT use commands or questions. a. Commands: Do the thinking for the child. Sit down. Be quiet. Commands don’t invite a conversation so that win/win problem solving can occur. It makes it seem like the adult is the only one that knows the answers. b. Questions: Most people use questions so automatically that it is like breathing. Questions have the effect of handing over too much power to the child. Children can easily […]

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Meet the Children

How to introduce your children to your new “special friend.” 
By John Gray, Ph.D. You now realize that it’s time to introduce your children to the person who has been sharing your life these past few months. In the past, every time you’ve thought about doing this, a hard knot has formed in your stomach — the result of anxiety mixed with trepidation. You’re thinking: “How will my kids react to the fact that I’m in a new relationship? If they resent it, will they take out their anger on my lover? Will my lover be able to stick it […]

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The Shock of Divorce

This Divorce eNewsletter article is brought to you by Lisa Gresham of Equitable Divorce and Divorce Magazine Learn what shocks children and how to help your children accept the news of your divorce. Written by Alison Clarke-Stewart and Cornelia Brentano The Shock of Divorce Perhaps the first cause of children’s emotional reactions to divorce is that they are ill-prepared for the news that their parents are separating. Many children get no warning that their family is falling apart. Parents rarely discuss with their children the problems in their marriage or the possibility of separating before the event occurs. Perhaps they […]

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